I have always had the belief that a person’s sexual health impacts many aspects of their life. Sometimes it is a belief or culture we were raised in that prevents us from seeking support. Maybe it is our own feelings of awkwardness, embarrassment and judgment, that prevent us from talking to a professional. No matter what the reasons are, it is my hope that I will help alleviate your feelings of apprehension, embarrassment or shame when talking about your sexual health.
There are many reasons why an individual or couple would seek the support from a Sex Therapist. The list is an exhaustive one. I tend to focus on the following;
- Erectile dysfunction
- Orgasm issues (anorgasmia)
- Sexual anxieties
- Out of control sexual behavior
- Effects of menopause
- Ejaculatory concerns
- Difficulty in engaging in sexual/intimate relations with another person
- Painful intercourse
- Change in libido or desire discrepancies with couples
HOW MIGHT I HELP:
You have found yourself having difficulty maintaining an erection. This has left you feeling confused, angry, embarrassed and anxious. Why is this suddenly happening and how can I help?
Difficulty maintaining an erection can be the result of many things; medications, emotional distress, daily stressors or the aging process. I can help you normalize this, sort through the possible causes, process all of the emotions, and assist you in finding a solution. Sensate focus, directed masturbation, psycho-education and medications are just a few of the possible solutions.
Night sweats, insomnia, irritability and painful intercourse are just a few samples of the affects you may be feeling from the wonderful world of peri-menopause or post-menopause. This is putting an emotional and physical distress on your relationship. You have spoken to your doctor about the symptoms and although he/she may be trying to help, it just is not enough. After-all, they cannot help with the emotional ups and downs you are going through.
I am here to listen and help you sort through the multitude of emotional feelings you are experiencing. I can offer insight into how you may still maintain an active sex life or manage your decrease in libido with your partner. I can also work with your doctor in finding the best treatment options for you. Treating menopausal symptoms is not a quick fix nor is it a “one stop shop” for every woman. What works for one,may not work for another.
You find yourself having thoughts/desires or an attraction to something that catches you off guard. You may be asking yourself if this is “normal” or “am I the only one”?
There are many different sexual thoughts, urges, or fantasies in this world. Asking yourself if you are “normal” is a very common concern. In my therapy approach, I try to stay away from the word “normal”, as we are all unique individuals. However, I can talk with you about your feelings around it, what it may mean and how it is affecting your daily life.
“We don’t have sex like we used to”. Has your physical intimacy and sexual relations with your partner changed? Maybe it seems routine, one has more desire than the other. You might find yourself feeling resentful, anxious or trying to avoid the topic of sex all together with your partner.
Using the basis of the Bio- Psychological model, I will work with you as a couple on what is important to each of you emotionally and sexually. I will assist you both on communicating your needs and desires both inside and outside the bedroom. I will help you both be familiar with what your “31 flavors” are and how to bring them to life. With the skill of a therapist, it may surprise you what you and your partner can discover.